What Guests Don’t Care About at A Wedding

Authored by: Rinette Emerson
January 17, 2018

Most couples know that planning a wedding can be stressful…and will be expensive. Based on our experience over the past 11 years and thousands of weddings, listed below are some things that you may choose to eliminate from your wedding that will reduce the stress, save you money and the best part …your guests won’t notice.

  • Invitations: Don’t spend a lot of time or money here as most invitations are discarded as soon as the Reply envelope is mailed. There are many retailers (Shutterfly, Etsy, Vistaprint or Walmart) that offer a wide variety of wedding invitations that can be downloaded at a flat fee and printed as needed.
  • Programs: Are usually left on the seats following the ceremony and discarded before the first dance. Wooden signs or chalkboards highlighting the events of the day and circulated around the reception area will do the trick.
  • Linens: Specialty linens can get quite costly to rent, and most guests don’t even notice the color or texture of the tablecloths. So, if they are clean save some money and the stress of choosing “the perfect linen” and go with something simple that blends with your décor.
  • Cake: An elaborate wedding cake is expensive. However, that doesn’t guarantee that it will taste as good as it looks, or that your guests will even enjoy your dream cake. So, consider a cake from the local grocery store or offer a dessert bar stocked with a variety of cupcakes, cookies or candies. Your guests may be even more pleased because of the variety.
  • Flowers: In most cases, floral arrangements are a welcome addition to any wedding venue. Decorate the high-impact areas like your aisle and front, since these are going to draw the most attention from both guests and the photographer. However, but don’t let the floral arrangements on the side table consume most of your décor budget. So, rather than spend a fortune and time on designer flowers, visit your local farmer’s market, florist, Costco or grocery store.
  • “The” Dress: I have listed this lower on the totem pole, because I know I’m going to receive some blow-back here. I’m not saying that your guests don’t care how you look walking down the aisle, but if you’re comfortable and the dress fits your personality and you feel like the beautiful person you are, your guests won’t be thinking about the designer or couture of the dress. You might even consider renting your perfect dress from one of the many storefront and online retailers.

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About the Author: Rinette Emerson

Prior to Enduring Promises, Rinette worked with clients on strategic communications, online development programs, corporate branding and helping clients “get found” online. After officiating her first wedding, many years ago, Rinette was hooked – and now she is a sought-after wedding Officiant. A little-known fact about Rinette…she is an amazing artist and loves milk chocolate!

Author Website: https://www.enduringpromises.com

Amateur or a Professional DJ – Who You Gonna’ Call?

Authored by: Chris Perkins
December 24, 2017

Due to advancements in technology, apps and DJ software, nearly anyone can call themselves a professional DJ. But do you want just anyone spinning the tunes at your wedding? So, if you’re wondering if you should hire a professional DJ or settle for Spotify or a Craigslist enthusiast, consider the following:

1) You can count on a professional wedding DJ to be just that – professional. Be assured that they’ll dress appropriately, interact with you and your guests in a prompt, courteous and professional manner and won’t “take over the room”. A professional wedding DJ will have plans in place, even if an emergency arises, and won’t let you down on your Special Day.

2) A professional DJ has a virtually unlimited number of great tunes that will appeal to any diverse or eclectic group. More importantly, a professional wedding DJ has the experience to know when changes need to be made to make sure everyone is having a great time.

3) An experienced DJ, will have a quality sound system, with backup equipment just in case, to ensure that your music sounds just as you had hoped.

4) The person you choose and trust to select the music on your wedding day will have an enormous impact on your celebration. Over the years we have found that most guests don’t notice the flowers or remember the gold-leafed invitations. They do however, remember how much they danced and how much they enjoyed your reception.

5) Over their career, a professional wedding DJ will have garnered online reviews and a solid reputation. So, take the time to search out what couples have said about using the services of a professional DJ versus asking your uncle to handle the responsibility of creating the musical experience for your guests.

6) A professional wedding DJ will also keep your celebration flowing. They’ll make announcements, get your guest on the dance floor – keep them there.

However, if your budget is limited, make sure that your friend or “Craigslist amateur” offers some feedback and suggestions, sets up and tests the (rented?) equipment well before the start of your celebration. You just might find that the price difference isn’t worth the risk of having an empty dance floor or music that doesn’t reflect your personalities or vision you have for your reception.

On the surface, it may seem like a DJ is just a DJ. We have seen over the years however, that hiring a DJ for less, almost always means getting less – and a DJ for less is probably less of a DJ.

We post new content regularly that will help you create your perfect, hopefully stress-free, engaging wedding ceremony. Follow our Blog for additional wedding ideas and we’ll catch up with you next time.

About the Author: Chris Perkins

Chris manages Maximum Music’s social communities and platforms. When not following the latest wedding music trends, Chris enjoys spending time with his dog Honey and following the Raptors…and of course Chris is a music fanatic.

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Samantha and Jordan

We used Enduring Promises to design our ceremony and couldn’t be happier. Using the ceremony builder you can really make it your own. We received so many compliments about our beautiful and unique ceremony! Our officiant Belma did an amazing job and was such a pleasure to work with! I could not recommend this company enough!

Samantha & Jordan

How to Bring Emotions Into Your Wedding Ceremony.

Authored by: Rinette Emerson
October 4, 2017

“The important thing is not the object of love, but the emotion itself.” 
                                                                                        
Gore Vidal

Regardless of your planning and assurances from trusted friends and vendors, the morning of your wedding can be a little hectic! The photographers, videographers, wedding planner, event coordinator, bridesmaids, hair and makeup team all need your attention at some point. Then there’s the family members who want to give you advice and hug you every chance they can. So when you start feeling a little stressed, take a few minutes to enjoy the realization that you’re getting married to your best friend and the person of your dreams.

One month after your wedding celebration few people, including the two of you, will be able to recall much of what was said during your ceremony. After all, can you remember what was said at the last wedding you attended? But years from now, some of your guests will be able to tell you how they felt during your wedding ceremony. So focus on creating a ceremony that will generate emotions that will be measured in smiles and cheers not frowns and yawns. And those emotions begin with you – the bride and groom.

Music, art, relationships and weddings all evoke different feelings. We go to movies, watch our favorite Netflix shows, read novels and attend concerts because we expect to be moved emotionally in some way. It’s these feelings that anchor major events in our lives. For example, I can’t remember a single thing that was said to me on my first day of school, but I do remember that both my mother and I cried. I also cried on my second day, but then again most of my class did as well! Nor do I remember the score of Super Bowl 38, but I do remember how I felt when “the wardrobe malfunctioned”. I also remember how I felt emotionally as I drove to the venue on my wedding day, but I must admit that I can’t remember my vows.

A personal wedding ceremony will gently incite a wide range of emotions from your guests. It’s these feelings that will form the bases from which the compliments and memories of your day will flow, indicating how much your guests enjoyed and were engaged in your ceremony. Therefore, it’s more than just all right to show some emotion on your wedding day, and hopefully a few tears of happiness, it’s a big part of the celebration. So focus on engaging your guests emotionally rather than stressing about the perfect wording – they won’t remember the words anyway!

There are many ways to emotionally draw guests into your wedding ceremony. Sometimes it’s by your choice of music, other times through meaningful readings by family members or friends or by adding a cultural or family tradition. There are so many ways in fact, that it’s impossible to list them all here. That’s where an experienced officiant can be a wealth of information. So don’t hesitate to ask him/her for suggestions that will help make your special day an emotional keepsake for you as well as your guests.

As always, follow along at our blog.  We post new content regularly that will help you create your perfect, hopefully stress-free, emotional wedding ceremony. Visit our Tips and Suggestions for additional wedding ideas and we’ll catch up with you next time.

About the Author: Rinette Emerson

Anyone who knows me would say that I am fairly laid back, easy going and love my morning coffee. I love chocolate, preferably milk chocolate, and when time allows I enjoy painting and running.
I grew up in South Africa before moving to the UK and finally settling in Canada where I married my best friend and loudest supporter. We love to travel and would consider ourselves to be “adventurous” foodies. Enough about me, now tell me about you? You can follow her on LinkedIn.

Author Website: https://www.enduringpromises.com

Thank you, but our friend is going to be our Officiant.

Authored by: Rinette Emerson
September 14, 2017

Asking a friend or family member to officiate your wedding ceremony sounds like a wonderful idea. A very personal and unique way to include that special someone in your big day. We get it, and appreciate the upside of including someone who has known you for many years. It’s also cheaper than hiring someone you just met. But getting a Day-of-Officiant (DoO) to perform your ceremony also comes with a lot of responsibilities and some additional stress. So, before asking your bestie to do the honors, consider the following:

1) Make sure you fully understand the many roles that a professional wedding officiant undertakes. They don’t just stand at the front and listen as you say your “I dos”. The officiant you choose will work with you to help create the wedding ceremony you have envisioned – not your parents, or friend’s ideas of what you should do. They will make suggestions which reflect your personalities, traditions and culture, lead your rehearsal and suggest new ways of engaging your guests during your ceremony. They will also ensure that all necessary forms and documents are completed and forwarded to the appropriate registrant.

2) Make sure it’s legal. Check with the Registrar in the province where you will be getting married to see the complete guidelines of what needs to be done to ensure that your DoO is licensed to solemnize your marriage. Marriage laws are governed at the provincial level, not federal, so just because Uncle Buck is licensed in one province doesn’t automatically ensure he is licensed in the city you are having your ceremony. Don’t risk something so important.
In Canada, online licensing is not an option and navigating the legal regulations can be daunting, so you might consider other options. You could have a licensed officiant witness your ceremony and declare you legally married just before your ceremony begins. Or you might consider hiring a professional to co-officiate with your DoO.
Ultimately, if your heart is set on having a DoO there are ways to make it work, and make it work well.

3) Officiating your wedding ceremony can be a nerve-wracking responsibility for your friend, so when choosing that friend consider why s/he would be a good DoO?
Have they ever officiated a wedding? Are they comfortable speaking to large groups? Can they adjust to last minute changes and handle any unexpected ceremony “malfunctions”? After all, you don’t want to put your friend in a position that would negatively impact your special day and/or your friendship.
Make sure to ask your DoO early in the planning process so that, if they don’t feel comfortable and turn you down, you have time to make other arrangements.

4) Once your friend has agreed to be your DoO the work begins. Who is going to write what’s going to be said? Do you want your DoO to write all of your ceremony or will it be a collaborative effort? How will it flow? How will you incorporate your different cultures into your ceremony? How will you keep your guests engaged during your ceremony? These are just some of the questions that need to be discussed, so don’t leave your ceremony till the end.

5) Are you planning a rehearsal and if so, who will run it? This is an ideal time for you, your wedding party and your DoO to get a feel for what it’s going to be like on your wedding day. Regardless if you have a DoO or hire a professional officiant, a rehearsal will relieve much of the stress caused by the fear of the unknown.
If you choose to have a DoO you will need to assume much more work than if you hired a professional officiant. So, thoughtfully consider why you want to have a friend officiate your ceremony.

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About the Author: Rinette Emerson

Anyone who knows me would say that I am fairly laid back, easy going and love my morning coffee. I love chocolate, preferably milk chocolate, and when time allows I enjoy painting and running.
I grew up in South Africa before moving to the UK and finally settling in Canada where I married my best friend and loudest supporter. We love to travel and would consider ourselves to be “adventurous” foodies. Enough about me, now tell me about you? You can follow her on LinkedIn.

Author Website: https://www.enduringpromises.com

Phoenix and Hiu

We would like to say thank you to Rob Brouwer and Enduring Promises. We are so happy to have you for our ceremony!

The guests all loved our ceremony. It was lovely, warm and touching. You were just the best officiant for us no doubt!

Phoenix and Hiu

How To Create Your Wedding Masterpiece

Authored by: Olga Pankovaor
July 21, 2017

In the digital era of Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest there are many ways to record the emotions of your wedding day. In addition to the professional photographers and videographers, there are drones, Go Pros, and photo-booths, and of course the photo contributions from every family member and guest present at your wedding. A new twist on an old standard however, is beginning to trend at today’s modern wedding celebration – live event painting.

Live event painting provides a unique way to preserve the essence of your special day by capturing your wedding celebration on canvas – in real time. Over the course of the ceremony and reception you and your guests can watch, enjoy and relive the day’s events as they come to life through the eyes of a professional events artist. Your guests will be entertained as they watch the painting take shape and see themselves appear on the canvas or other medium. Each live event painting is a one-of-a-kind fine art portrait that will add that unique cutting-edge “Wow!” factor to your special event. It is designed to evoke the emotions you and your guests felt as it happened, during the wedding celebration or special event.

A live event artist will paint a portrait of the newlyweds, their guests, and other personal details the couple may wish included – such as their favourite pet or image of a deceased loved one. The artist will continue to work on the painting throughout the wedding and reception, in full view of guests. It is a unique form of entertainment for your guests, and an original work of art that recorded the magic and memories of a couple’s wedding celebration. Creating a priceless family heirloom that will be treasured, enjoyed and cherished for generations.

What more memorable wedding gift to a couple than an original work of art that will be proudly displayed in their home. One that reminds them, and their visitors, of the day when two people committed to love one another unconditionally, and to share the future together.

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About the Author: Olga Pankovaor

Olga is a sought-after artist, specializing in LIVE wedding and event painting in and around the GTA. Olga brings a lifetime of experience as an portraitist and fine artist. You can visit some of Olga’s work at www.olgazart.com on Facebook (@Live Event Artist – Olga Pankovaor), or LinkedIn

Can your Wedding Ceremony be Too Short?

Authored by: Rinette Emerson
May 29, 2017

The number one question we hear from couples when we first meet to discuss their wedding ceremony is never about what the officiant is going to wear, or if they should use a mic, or even about the processional order. It’s about the length of their ceremony.  

As a group of professional wedding officiants who have officiated thousands of wedding ceremonies the most frequently asked question we hear is, “We want our ceremony to be short and sweet, just the bear bones. So how long will that take?” The couple usually say, “We’re shy”, or “We don’t like to be the centre of attention”, or “We don’t like public speaking”, or “We’re not sentimental people”. All valid reasons for sure, why the bride and groom would want to avoid a long-winded ceremony.

A “Short and Sweet” ceremony is certainly the order of the day, and what many couples want. It’s also something that most guests appreciate. That said, there is also such a thing as too short—which may not be so sweet. 

Remember that your wedding ceremony is not just about you. The guests you have invited are the most important people in your lives. They are there to witness your commitment to one another and to celebrate with you. On more than a few occasions we have heard guests’ comment, “Wow, that went by so fast” and “Good thing we got here early, or we would have missed the ceremony altogether”. So, although some guests may applaud your brevity, others may feel shortchanged if the ceremony is a blink-and-you-missed-it event.

As your ceremony begins, give yourselves time to breathe and focus on the commitment you are about to make to each other. Take time to view the emotions on the faces of your families and guests. You want your guests to be engaged, to be present in your celebration, and to be able to enjoy what’s happening as it’s happening…and you can’t do that in 7 minutes. If however, if a 7-minute ceremony is what you want, don’t feel that you must add meaningless words to a very meaningful life event.

As you are designing your ceremony share ideas with your officiant, express your concerns about the length of your ceremony, and then work with her/him to create a wedding ceremony that reflects your personalities and dreams for the future. Your ceremony should be just long enough to emotionally engage your guests but short enough to keep everyone awake.

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About the Author: Rinette Emerson

Prior to Enduring Promises, Rinette worked with clients on strategic communications, online development programs, corporate branding and helping clients “get found” online. After officiating her first wedding, many years ago, Rinette was hooked – and now she is a sought after wedding Officiant. A little-known fact about Rinette…she is an amazing artist! You can follow her on LinkedIn.

 

Author Website: https://www.enduringpromises.com

Pinterest or Your Photographer – Who Should You Trust?

Authored by: Chantal Benoit
April 11, 2017

Once you have cleaned and stored your dress and written the last thank you note, your wedding photos are a reminder of the love you felt from those who celebrated with you on your wedding day. 

When researching ideas for their wedding, many brides use Pinterest as their source of inspiration. Is this the best way to start, or should you trust the professional you have hired to capture the events of the day – your photographer? The right photographer, with a solid and varied background of nuptial experiences, will capture and preserve the memories, emotions and fun of your wedding day – forever! After all, that one perfect photo can instantly help you recall the happiest day of your life.

So, here’s a few things to consider when choosing the perfect photographer for your wedding:

Do Your Homework
Think of which photographic style best fits and captures the nature of your relationship and lifestyle, then start your search by reading online reviews posted on marketplace sites. Third party reviews will save you time and possibly a lot of frustration. Once you have narrowed your list of potential photographers check out their website to view galleries of real weddings they’ve shot. When reviewing a photographer’s work, look for the key moments not just of the couple who got married, but also of the smiling faces of their friends. This will give you some idea of the photographer’s style and creativity and a better idea of what your complete wedding album might look like. You also might want to check out their social postings on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.

It’s important to find out what’s included in the package you choose, plus the fee for any extras you may want. Your contract should clearly define how many hours of coverage are included, who will be your photographer and how many photographers will be present. While packages can vary dramatically it’s usually better to pay for more coverage if there’s a chance you’ll run over. After all, you don’t want your photographer leaving before your first dance!

Trust Your Photographer

When you hire a professional photographer, you’re hiring him/her for their creativity and their ability to interpret stories – so let them tell your love story. Trust them – really trust them to create and document the story of your wedding. Your photographer will capture those cherished moments in time that only a few people witness, so take risks with them and let them have some creative control! If your photographer suggests a pose or stance, it’s because they know you, they know what makes up an awesome shot, and they know you will love the experience and the finished product – and isn’t that the reason you chose them in the first place?

Your wedding is a day to celebrate with family and friends. So, relax, enjoy your Special Day and smile – your photographer will do the rest. If you do that, then both your heart and photo album will be full of glorious memories – and may end up on several Pinterest boards! 

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About the Author: Chantal Benoit

Chantal loves cats and shoes…and just happens to be an extremely creative and professional wedding photographer with over 20 years of experience. Chantal’s work has been featured in Twobrightlights Editor’s Choice Awards, The Knot and Ottawa Wedding Magazine to name just a few, Chantal’s passion is to capture and preserve wedding memories and emotions that will be cherished for a lifetime. View more of Chantal’s photos online

Author Website: https://chantalbenoit.com

K Pellerin Photography

Hi Jim Giles, 

It was nice meeting and working with you this past weekend. 

I appreciated that you always directed the attention on the couple – especially the bride – and giving me, as  the photographer, the opportunity to get the best photos of the couple. You were always aware of where you were in the frame and I wish all officiants were as considerate! 

I am working on some teasers photos for the couple tonight and will send a few to you when I have them done. 

I hope to work with you again and will definitely recommend you to my couples who are looking for a professional wedding officiant.   

K Pellerin Photography

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Eyecontact Photography

I’ve had the pleasure of working with Jim from Enduring Promises over the years. It’s so important to have the right Officiant at your ceremony, one that listens to your story and represents you two as a couple. It’s also great to work with an Officiant who understands that the photos are important to the couple and he works with the couple and photographer to make sure that everyone is happy, which is so important on the day of your wedding.  

Eyecontact Photography

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Auspicious Melody

Though I have not actually worked at the same wedding as an officiant from Enduring Promises, I have come across them many times at different wedding shows, and I have always appreciated how friendly, supportive, and professional they are, both to prospective clients and to other wedding business vendors. I look forward to working with them one day, and have no doubt that the rave reviews they have received from other endorsements are absolutely true and authentic.  

Auspicious Melody

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