The Best Way to Plan your Marriage!

Authored by: Jim Emerson
November 13, 2018

You have spent months planning your wedding day, but how much time have you invested in discussing situations and events Planning A Marriagethat may cause stress in your marriage? So, before your big day talk through a few of the following potentially touchy issues and consider how you will work through them if they occur at some point during your marriage.

Family Matters
When you’re married, your family unit becomes you, your spouse, and your children. But how about your parents, in-laws, siblings, cousins, nieces, and nephews? These extended family members can bring some of the greatest joys to your marriage, but they may also be some of your relationship’s greatest challenges. How much time do you spend with your family now, and how much do you expect to spend with them once you’re married and potentially have children?

Bringing two families together, the arrival of your own children, or decision not to have children, are issues that can cause family tension. Ultimately, you are a team, and you should present a united front when any inter-family arguments arise.

Having and Raising Kids
This is a biggie. If you haven’t already openly communicated your feelings towards starting a family, now is the time to discuss where you each stand on the issue.  How many children do you think you want – if any at all – and how long into your marriage do you wait to have kids? If you are bringing kids into a new marriage, how should they be disciplined?

If there are fertility issues, are you open to adoption, becoming a foster parent or is IVF an option? These topics may not be the easiest to talk about,but chatting about how you’d handle these issues will make it easier if the event ever arises.

Religion can be an extremely divisive issue in a marriage. If you practice a religion or have a particular faith, how important is it that your partner share the same faith as you? It may not be a major consideration now, but problems may arisewhen children arrive and you’re deciding on how to raise them. What religion, if any, do you want to raise them in? So, talk about your faith, and how you see it affecting your shared life, nowand down the road.

Financial Matters
Finances is one of the biggest causes of stress and tension in many relationships,but it’s a conversation you absolutely must have before marriage. So, instead of avoiding the subject or sweeping it under the rug, have an in-depth discussion about the specifics of your finances, your expectations and budget.

Decide whether you’ll pool your money or retain separate bank accounts. If you decide on separate accounts, who will be responsible for paying what expenses, how will you address gift-giving or charitable donations, or large investments? What would you do if one of you won the lottery, gained an inheritance or lost your job? Do you have an emergency fund and how will you contribute to the fund?

On the other hand, if you combine your financial resources, have you planned and budgeted how to pay off your existing debt or save for the future? There isn’t a single answer that works for every couple, and that’s why you need to communicate your expectations before marriage and not after it develops into an argument.

Your Careers
How committed is each of you to your careers and how will your choice impact your marriage? You might have touched on your career goals and aspirations, but have you discussed what you’d do if one of you needed or wanted to relocate for work? Where do you want to plant your career roots? Whatever that looks like, make sure your partner is on board. Even if it’s not in the cards right now, it’s worthwhile having a game plan.

Till the End
Although an inevitability, death is still a difficult topic to talk about. Talking about it, however, can help you face the realities and cope a little better when you experience bereavement. Who will be your beneficiary, and who will raise your kids should something happen to both of you. Do you both have wills?

In Sickness and Health
Changes in your own health or the health of a loved one can be a source of great anxiety in any marriage. What would happen if one of your parents or extended family member required a lot of support or needed to be moved to an extended care facility? Discussing your feelings and possible options before marriage, may help you both one day.

Time Management
Some couples prefer spending time together participating in shared interests, while others value keeping up separate friendships through sport or other avocations. How much time together is just right for you?

The biggest issue of all however, is will you have a TV in your bedroom? Answering this all-important question before you get married and the season begins, could provide valuable insight into how you see your married life together


About the Author: Jim Emerson

Jim has helped over 1,100 couples reduce the stress of creating their personal and unique wedding ceremony. He is a husband, father, friend, author, triathlete, handyman, teacher and passionate about his family and work. Jim can help you imagine, create and celebrate your dream wedding ceremony. Contact him today, he’d love to hear from you.

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“Enduring Promises came recommended to me from my cousin whose friend used Enduring Promises to find her officiant. I contacted the company, and someone emailed me back very quickly giving me options for officiants who would best fit our non-religious wedding ceremony.

We met Brian Manuel and instantly knew he’d be perfect. He made everything less stressful by giving us ideas for our ceremony. The website was very easy to use and extremely helpful. We were able to use examples and change them to fit our ideas for our perfect ceremony. Brian supported us the entire way and made it so easy. When our big day arrived, I was so relieved to see Brian’s smiling face – he was so personable and very professional. Brian made the entire process stress free and helped create our ceremony.

We recommend Brian and Enduring Promises to any engaged couple looking for an officiant. This was truly an amazing experience and there is nothing we would have changed.”

Sara & Elliott
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Note to the Bride & Groom: You shouldn’t do this……

Authored by: Jim Emerson
September 10, 2018

If you search the internet looking for wedding ceremony etiquette, you would find many posts directed towards how guests should or shouldn’t behave. However, little is written about how the bride and groom should conduct themselves at such a significant gatheringAs a wedding will be one of the most significant days in a couple’s life, their behavior needs to reflect this. So, here are a few specific behaviours that the honoured couple should avoid at all costs:

  • Don’t get stuck doing wedding duties that your wedding party can handle. Spend time celebrating with your guests and your new spouse.
  • Don’t change your mind about who will be in your wedding party after you’ve asked, and your invitation has been accepted. If you do, you’ll probably lose a friendship.
  • Don’t ask your attendants to run errands that should be performed by hired help. If you need a baby-sitter during the reception or someone to shuffle cars, hire someone…but not one of your bridesmaids or groomsmen.
  • Along a similar line, never ask a guest to donate an item or volunteer a service that would normally be paid for. More than likely they will say yes, but is it a willing yes or do they feel compelled? Your cousins as the musicians, his aunt the baker or your uncle the photographer are often the targets of this abuse.
  • Don’t spend too much time with any one guest or group to the exclusion of others. Spend time, with your new partner by your side, visiting with each of your guests. Once you have chatted with all who joined in your celebration, revisit your nearest and dearest. If possible, try to visit with each guest at least twice during the evening so that everyone feels welcomed and included.
  • Don’t question an invited guest’s reason for declining your wedding ceremony invitation. You don’t know what might be going on in their lives when your invitation lands in their Inbox.
  • The quickest way to make your guests feel forgotten or unappreciated is to start your ceremony 30 minutes late or leave a big gap between the end of your ceremony and the beginning of cocktail hour.
  • Whether it’s from the bride or groom, no one wants to hear a long and boring toasts. Keep them short and sweet. Speeches can be meaningful without rambling on. Your guests want to get dancing!

A final thought: Regardless of the flowers, music or food, the result is the same — you just married the person you love, and nothing else matters!

About the Author: Jim Emerson

Jim has helped over 1,100 couples reduce the stress of creating their personal and unique wedding ceremony. He is a husband, father, friend, author, triathlete, handyman, teacher and passionate about his family and work. Jim can help you imagine, create and celebrate your dream wedding ceremony. Contact him today, he’d love to hear from you.

Why You Should Attend a Bridal Show

Authored by: Jim Emerson
September 5, 2018

Have you ever received a blast email about an upcoming bridal show in your area and wondered if it’s worth the time, money and energy to go? After all, your wedding is still a year away and you fear being attacked by pushy salespeople and over-whelmed by the amount of available information. On the other hand, you haven’t done this before and need some help in planning “THE DAY” you have dreamed of for years. So, here are a few reasons why you should go to a bridal show:

Information. Suggestions. Recommendations.
There are many factors to consider when planning your wedding. Even though you have some ideas, the professionals you meet face-to-face at a bridal show will be able to answer any questions you may have. So, it’s a good idea to speak with as many exhibitors as you can. Ask about their background, experience, services, and aspects of your wedding that are an absolute must have. You’ll get immediate feedback and some suggestions that might confirm that the person you are speaking with is the perfect vendor for your wedding.

Inspiration. Trends.
Although Pinterest, Instagram, Google and innumerable wedding blogs and websites have made it easier to learn about the latest trends and fashions, nothing compares to seeing and feeling the real thing – “up close and personal”. The best vendors, based on online reviews, are typically up-to-date with the ever-changing trends in the wedding world and will happily share what they have seen and experienced.

Prizes. Discounts. Free stuff.
Most bridal shows have some type of gift for those who register early and door prizes for all things wedding related.  Many wedding vendors also offer some form of show promotion which might include a reduction in their fee, an upgrade to their standard package and even honeymoon discounts, if their service is booked by a certain date. So, if you’re not sure, it never hurts to ask if the vendor is running a show special. We guarantee that there will be some specials that are far too good to pass up.

Camaraderie. Second Opinions.
There’s no two ways about it – wedding planning can be stressful.So, enjoy an afternoon at a bridal show with loved onesby bringing along your wedding party, mom and mother-in-law.

Having more than one person with you, especially someone whose opinion you value and trust,will keep you from making rash decisions, help you gather info, and help you carry the magazines, brochures and other goodies the exhibitors have for you. The more decisions you can make at the show however, the more items you can check off your planning list.

Attending a major bridal show can a great experience, extremely informative and a lot of fun. That said, it requires preparation, nerves of steel, the patience of a saint, and extra strong coffee. But if you’re hoping to make a personal connection with your vendors, and be more efficient in your planning efforts, you should attend a bridal show in your area. You won’t be disappointed you did

About the Author: Jim Emerson

Jim has helped over 1,100 couples reduce the stress of creating their personal and unique wedding ceremony. He is a husband, father, friend, author, triathlete, handyman, teacher and passionate about his family and work. Jim can help you imagine, create and celebrate your dream wedding ceremony. Contact him today, he’d love to hear from you.

What If They’re Not The One?

Authored by: Jim Emerson
July 25, 2018

I can’t remember a year when so many couples have decided to end their relationship, and cancel their wedding. They’ve already begun celebrating with family and friends, receiving gifts, choosing vendors, and finalizing a honeymoon destination. They’re months into planning the biggest celebration of their lives and they are confronted with the reality that they aren’t in love anymore. Now what?

I won’t try to sugar-coat the situation with words like, “Your family and friends will be totally supportive and understanding”, or “It’s what you’ve got to do, if you don’t want to spend the rest of your life married to the wrong person”. It’s going to be emotionally challenging, no doubt about it. I commend you for taking the difficult step to cancel your wedding knowing that s/he is not your soulmate, but deep down inside you know that going ahead with the wedding isn’t the right thing to do. So, here are some steps to take if you have decided to cancel your wedding.

Announce your decision to your families and those involved in the wedding immediately (the wedding party, readers, grandparents, siblings, etc). Meet face-to-face, together if possible, with the both sets of parents. Details are not necessary, but it is important to reach out expressing your disappointment that things didn’t work out. If it’s not possible to meet or speak with both sets of parents, for whatever reason, it’s appropriate to write them a heartfelt letter, not an email, thanking them for their support and love.

Tell all your invited guests as soon as possible of your decision, especially those who have made travel plans or placed deposits on accommodations. If your date is close at hand, a phone call might be required to ensure all guests received the message. If you haven’t sent out invitations or any other correspondence (including a Save-the-Date announcement) there is no need to spread the word in any formal way. However, if wedding invitations were sent by mail, email is not appropriate notice and a hand-written note should be sent.

Contact your vendors and let them know, in writing, that you’re cancelling your wedding. Review each vendors’ cancellation policy regarding your deposit. Generally, deposits are non-refundable, but there may be room for flexibility depending on the timing of your cancellation and the circumstances. Most wedding vendors and travel agents will try to be as accommodating as possible but be prepared for the worst. If you are only weeks away from your scheduled celebration, it’s safe to assume that you will not receive a refund – from any vendor.

If you have already paid in full, and there is little chance of a partial refund or credit, ask about using the deposits for another event.

Return all engagement, shower and wedding gifts to the guests who sent them.  Include a note announcing the cancellation of your engagement and wedding ceremony and thank them for their kindness. Return them sooner than later, as your guests may be able to return the gift they sent to you. Besides you don’t want reminders  of a wedding that didn’t happen.

Statistics show that 13% of couples cancel their engagement. So, you aren’t the first to cancel a wedding, and you won’t be the last. After the embarrassment, self-doubt, tears and emotional pain has passed, you will look back in relief on your decision not to spend your life married to the wrong person.

About the Author: Jim Emerson

Jim has helped over 1,100 couples reduce the stress of creating their personal and unique wedding ceremony. He is a husband, father, friend, author, triathlete, handyman, teacher and passionate about his family and work. Jim can help you imagine, create and celebrate your dream wedding ceremony. Contact him today, he’d love to hear from you.

Do I Have To Include a Reading In My Wedding Ceremony?

Authored by: Jim Emerson
June 28, 2018

The short answer is no you don’t…but maybe you want to.

Having families and friends gather together to celebrate with you on your wedding day is a truly special occasion. Incorporating a reading or two in your ceremony can be an effective way make your ceremony more personal and more inclusive by involving guests to participate in your ceremony. If you do include a reading which reflects your personalities and values, your guests will not only listen attentively and be engaged but will appreciate your selection. Listed below are some questions which might help you decide if you want to include a reading in your ceremony:

1) Why are you considering adding a reading to your ceremony?
2) Who is this reading for, You or our guests?
3) What does the reading say about you as a couple?
4) Do you know the right person you want to read it?

If you decide not to include a reading, your ceremony isn’t going to fall apart, and your guests might not even notice. After all, readings aren’t for every couple and you don’t want to add one just to pad your ceremony or because you’re being pressure to do so by your favourite aunt. We often suggest to couples, not to include a reading just because you think you must. Include one because it speaks to you, it provides some insight about you as a couple, and adds an emotional connection with your guests. In addition, if you’re incorporating other cultural or traditional elements in your ceremony, a reading may not add to your celebration.

Remember that a reading is personal and very subjective. This is your day, so if you choose to include a reading or not in your ceremony it’s totally up to you, not Aunt Sally.

About the Author: Jim Emerson

Jim Emerson has helped over 1,100 couples reduce the stress of creating their personal and unique wedding ceremony. He is a husband, father, friend, author, triathlete, handyman, teacher and passionate about his family and work. Jim can help you imagine, create and celebrate your dream wedding ceremony. Contact him today, he’d love to hear from you.

Write Wedding Vows You Can Keep

Authored by: Jim Emerson
May 16, 2018

“I promise not to date another person for as long as our marriage lasts.” Really? No kidding? After picking my jaw up off the floor, I wondered what was going through the bride’s mind as she heard her soon-to-be-spouse express his undying love and commitment. I think most of us agree that this is not the most romantic wedding vow, or the best way to start off a marriage.

Most guests attending a wedding are there to join in the celebration of two people coming together. We are hopeful that the new couple will honour their vows and work together so that their marriage will not only last, but flourish over the years.

Recently there has been an expectation that couples will write their vows to one another. Vows that contain a balance of humour and commitment. Unfortunately, many times the words of commitment fall short in expressing how excited they are to be spending the rest of their lives together, and the humour is often embarrassing and/or inappropriate. We suggest that given some of the vows we have heard as Officiants, some couples should stick to a more traditional vow and leave the humour to Amy Schumer. However, if you decide to express your inner most feelings by writing your own promises, here are some suggestions to help you write attainable and meaningful wedding vows:

I promise to prioritize our marriage.
“Couple time” is one of the building blocks of a healthy marriage. Promise to spend time together – to prioritize your marriage – even when life gets in the way. Don’t let the kids soccer practice or work get in the way. This vow is both attainable and it demonstrates that you really want your marriage to last.

I promise to say, “I’m sorry, please forgive me”.
Sometimes couples overreact in a situation, misunderstand their spouse’s intentions or just have a bad day. It’s at times like this when things can be said that are hurtful and regrettable. Often one of the most challenging parts of a marriage is misinterpreting something that is said and reacting with a flippant or off-the cuff comment.

So, in your vows tell your partner that when something you say is hurtful, it’s wasn’t intentional. Promise that you will apologize quickly and ask her/him to forgive you – and really, really mean it.

I will do my best, but I can’t promise to make you happy every day.
We often hear couples promise to make their partner happy every day of their life. It sounds great, a loving promise for sure, but it’s unrealistic. It’s not achievable. It assumes that one partner will be responsible for the other’s happiness and that’s not how a marriage works. So, for a marriage to grow each partner must take responsibility for their own actions and not rely on their spouse to make them happy every day.

I promise to be all in.
Marriage is an unconditional promise to your partner – a 100% commitment, not a 50/50 partnership. It’s about honouring, respecting and serving the other person. Not because you expect something in return, or if they deserve it or not, but because you love them. So, promise your partner that you’re all in – today and forever.

I promise to communicate my feelings honestly and openly.
Sometimes we expect our spouse to be able to sense our emotions and read our minds. Without open communications however, it’s unrealistic to expect them to know what you’re thinking.

Promise to communicate. Openly and clearly. Work together towards a common goal and be realistic about your future together. This will help you get through life’s most challenging situations and reassure your partner that this is for better or for worse, in sickness and in health.

We appreciate that it’s difficult to summarize your feelings for one another in just a few sentences. However, if you use these suggestions you will exchange promises that are both attainable and foundational for a long and joyous marriage.

So be yourself, be open, be honest, and you will have succeeded in writing attainable and meaningful wedding vows.

About the Author: Jim Emerson

Jim Emerson has helped over 1,100 couples reduce the stress of creating their personal and unique wedding ceremony. He is a husband, father, friend, author, triathlete, handyman, teacher and passionate about his family and work. Jim can help you imagine, create and celebrate your dream wedding ceremony. Contact him today, he’d love to hear from you.

Here’s Why We Aren’t a Good Fit

Authored by: Jim Emerson
April 4, 2018

Over the years we have met with thousands of engaged couples, many of whom have asked, “Why do you think you are the best fit to conduct our wedding ceremony?” If we are being totally honest, we don’t actually know if we are the best fit, but we can tell you that we are not the best choice if…

1) You’re searching for an Officiant based on price alone.
We are not suggesting that budget is not a consideration when choosing the person who will be most visible (but not nearly as beautiful as the bride) during your ceremony. However, there are other officiating companies that charge less than EP, and so they should. So, if you are making your decision based on price alone, we are not the best fit for you. Remember the adage, “You get what you pay for.”

2) You’re looking for someone to simply say a few words.
A wedding ceremony requires an experienced professional to help reduce the stress that most couples feel when thinking about their ceremony. Any licensed officiant can sign a piece of paper, but we want to create a memorable wedding experience for all and ensure that everything runs smoothly so you can enjoy your ceremony to the fullest.

3) You don’t want to spend time creating a unique and personal ceremony.
We enjoy working with couples who want a invest time discussing and creating a truly personal and unique wedding ceremony. When the last cupcake is eaten, and the last dance danced, we want your guests to say yours was the best wedding they have ever been to!

4) You don’t care who your officiant is.
We take the time to listen! We invest time to meet with each couple to hear and understand their vision for their ceremony. We want to get to know who you are as a couple so that we can offer suggestions that will help you tell your love story, make your guests feel included and connect all the moving parts of your ceremony.

5) You don’t care about what other couples say.
Read reviews. Professional Officiants have reviews posted by couples on third-party review sites such as WeddingWire, Google or Facebook. Look at the number of reviews posted as well as what couples have written. Because ultimately, that is how the officiant will interact with you and how s/he will conduct your ceremony.

If however, you do not think any of these things, and you want your wedding ceremony to be personal, unique and memorable for you and your guests, then we probably are a good fit for you and we should talk! Inquire About an Officiant Now and let’s begin the conversation.

About the Author: Jim Emerson

Jim Emerson has helped over 1,100 couples reduce the stress of creating their personal and unique wedding ceremony. He is a husband, father, friend, author, triathlete, handyman, teacher and passionate about his family and work. Jim can help you imagine, create and celebrate your dream wedding ceremony. Contact him today, he’d love to hear from you.


What Guests Care About at A Wedding

Authored by: Rinette Emerson
March 15, 2018

In our last blog we shared some insights that we have seen over the years that guests are relatively indifferent about when it comes to a wedding celebration. Now it’s time to share what our experience has shown that guests do care about when attending a wedding.

The Ceremony: Your ceremony is the most important part of your wedding celebration, and your vows are always the intimate and emotional part to witness.

The Start Time: The key to starting your wedding ceremony on a high note is to start on time. A 10-15-minute delay is acceptable, but after that the Tweets are flying!

Comfort: If guests are comfortable, they’ll be able to enjoy your ceremony, which sets the tone for the rest of the day. That might mean adding some padding to the seats or exchange plastic folding chairs for something sturdier. It may also mean renting some heaters in the fall or offering parasols and handing out water on a hot summer day.

There should also be enough space between chairs and rows that guests have some leg and elbow room. After all, if your guests are comfortable they will be engaged in your celebration, which means they will fondly remember your Special Day.

The Food: Enjoying an fantastic meal with family and friends is a treat for guests. Some of them have waited all day to enjoy those special treats on the dessert table, so make sure your food choices are crowd pleasers. A great meal will keep the atmosphere celebratory, but a bad one could really bring down the mood. In addition, be sure to offer vegan and vegetarian options or choices for those with common allergies, like gluten and nuts.

The Drinks: Weddings and signature cocktail drinks go together like a horse and carriage. So, keep the drinks flowing, because there’s nothing that wedding guests dislike more than a liquor well that runs dry.  A well stocked bar will also keep the energy high and your guests “in the mood” all night long.

The Music: The tunes will be going strong from the first arrivals through the last dance. So, make sure your music list is on point, especially once guests start hitting the dance floor. Skip the chicken dance and opt for fun, contemporary tunes that everyone is sure to know and love. This will unite the crowd and give your guest an opportunity to work off a few calories on the dance floor.

The Venue: Skip the outdoor venue during the hot and humid days of summer. Likewise, consider an indoor spot during the cooler fall and winter months. In addition to the climate consideration, does it reflect your personalities? Does it offer free parking, is it assessable, and how far away is it from the nearest hotels?

We post new content regularly that will help you create your personal, hopefully stress-free, and engaging wedding ceremony. Follow our Blog for additional wedding ideas and we’ll catch up with you next time.

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About the Author: Rinette Emerson

Anyone who knows me would say that I am fairly laid back, easy going and love my morning coffee. I love chocolate, preferably milk chocolate, and when time allows I enjoy painting and running.
I grew up in South Africa before moving to the UK and finally settling in Canada where I married my best friend and loudest supporter. We love to travel and would consider ourselves to be “adventurous” foodies.
Enough about me, now tell me about you?

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What Guests Don’t Care About at A Wedding

Authored by: Rinette Emerson
January 17, 2018

Most couples know that planning a wedding can be stressful…and will be expensive. Based on our experience over the past 11 years and thousands of weddings, listed below are some things that you may choose to eliminate from your wedding that will reduce the stress, save you money and the best part …your guests won’t notice.

  • Invitations: Don’t spend a lot of time or money here as most invitations are discarded as soon as the Reply envelope is mailed. There are many retailers (Shutterfly, Etsy, Vistaprint or Walmart) that offer a wide variety of wedding invitations that can be downloaded at a flat fee and printed as needed.
  • Programs: Are usually left on the seats following the ceremony and discarded before the first dance. Wooden signs or chalkboards highlighting the events of the day and circulated around the reception area will do the trick.
  • Linens: Specialty linens can get quite costly to rent, and most guests don’t even notice the color or texture of the tablecloths. So, if they are clean save some money and the stress of choosing “the perfect linen” and go with something simple that blends with your décor.
  • Cake: An elaborate wedding cake is expensive. However, that doesn’t guarantee that it will taste as good as it looks, or that your guests will even enjoy your dream cake. So, consider a cake from the local grocery store or offer a dessert bar stocked with a variety of cupcakes, cookies or candies. Your guests may be even more pleased because of the variety.
  • Flowers: In most cases, floral arrangements are a welcome addition to any wedding venue. Decorate the high-impact areas like your aisle and front, since these are going to draw the most attention from both guests and the photographer. However, but don’t let the floral arrangements on the side table consume most of your décor budget. So, rather than spend a fortune and time on designer flowers, visit your local farmer’s market, florist, Costco or grocery store.
  • “The” Dress: I have listed this lower on the totem pole, because I know I’m going to receive some blow-back here. I’m not saying that your guests don’t care how you look walking down the aisle, but if you’re comfortable and the dress fits your personality and you feel like the beautiful person you are, your guests won’t be thinking about the designer or couture of the dress. You might even consider renting your perfect dress from one of the many storefront and online retailers.

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About the Author: Rinette Emerson

Prior to Enduring Promises, Rinette worked with clients on strategic communications, online development programs, corporate branding and helping clients “get found” online. After officiating her first wedding, many years ago, Rinette was hooked – and now she is a sought-after wedding Officiant. A little-known fact about Rinette…she is an amazing artist and loves milk chocolate!

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Amateur or a Professional DJ – Who You Gonna’ Call?

Authored by: Chris Perkins
December 24, 2017

Due to advancements in technology, apps and DJ software, nearly anyone can call themselves a professional DJ. But do you want just anyone spinning the tunes at your wedding? So, if you’re wondering if you should hire a professional DJ or settle for Spotify or a Craigslist enthusiast, consider the following:

1) You can count on a professional wedding DJ to be just that – professional. Be assured that they’ll dress appropriately, interact with you and your guests in a prompt, courteous and professional manner and won’t “take over the room”. A professional wedding DJ will have plans in place, even if an emergency arises, and won’t let you down on your Special Day.

2) A professional DJ has a virtually unlimited number of great tunes that will appeal to any diverse or eclectic group. More importantly, a professional wedding DJ has the experience to know when changes need to be made to make sure everyone is having a great time.

3) An experienced DJ, will have a quality sound system, with backup equipment just in case, to ensure that your music sounds just as you had hoped.

4) The person you choose and trust to select the music on your wedding day will have an enormous impact on your celebration. Over the years we have found that most guests don’t notice the flowers or remember the gold-leafed invitations. They do however, remember how much they danced and how much they enjoyed your reception.

5) Over their career, a professional wedding DJ will have garnered online reviews and a solid reputation. So, take the time to search out what couples have said about using the services of a professional DJ versus asking your uncle to handle the responsibility of creating the musical experience for your guests.

6) A professional wedding DJ will also keep your celebration flowing. They’ll make announcements, get your guest on the dance floor – keep them there.

However, if your budget is limited, make sure that your friend or “Craigslist amateur” offers some feedback and suggestions, sets up and tests the (rented?) equipment well before the start of your celebration. You just might find that the price difference isn’t worth the risk of having an empty dance floor or music that doesn’t reflect your personalities or vision you have for your reception.

On the surface, it may seem like a DJ is just a DJ. We have seen over the years however, that hiring a DJ for less, almost always means getting less – and a DJ for less is probably less of a DJ.

We post new content regularly that will help you create your perfect, hopefully stress-free, engaging wedding ceremony. Follow our Blog for additional wedding ideas and we’ll catch up with you next time.

About the Author: Chris Perkins

Chris manages Maximum Music’s social communities and platforms. When not following the latest wedding music trends, Chris enjoys spending time with his dog Honey and following the Raptors…and of course Chris is a music fanatic.

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Samantha and Jordan

We used Enduring Promises to design our ceremony and couldn’t be happier. Using the ceremony builder you can really make it your own. We received so many compliments about our beautiful and unique ceremony! Our officiant Belma did an amazing job and was such a pleasure to work with! I could not recommend this company enough!

Samantha & Jordan