No, they wouldn’t…would they?

Authored by: Rinette Emerson
June 26, 2013

Since posting the “Wedding Guests Do’s and Don’ts” blog, we have received several more “suggestions” from readers that we felt should be added to the list. They include;

Don’t switch table cards. The Bride and Groom spent considerable time determining the seating arrangements so sit tight and enjoy the company, especially if the meal preference is marked on each place card.

Don’t ask to bring a guest. If the invitation doesn’t include one. This puts everyone in an awkward position, so respect the wishes of the Bride and Groom and arrive solo. If the invitation is vague, contact someone – other than the Bride and Groom – and ask for clarification.

Don’t be a no-show. If you responded that you would attend, make sure you go – even if your favourite team is in town! Emergencies can arise, and if they do and you can’t make it to the wedding, let the Bride and Groom know as soon as possible so they can make other arrangements.

Don’t complain to the Bride and Groom. If something goes wrong or seems inappropriate, don’t tell the couple. Express your concerns to the wedding planner, day of coordinator, or catering/venue manager – but not the Bride and Groom. Let them enjoy their Special Day. 

Do remember that you are a guest. You have been invited to attend the biggest day in the lives of the Bride and Groom, so don’t leave your manners in the parking lot – behave politely and appropriately towards all other guests. This includes passing on that last cocktail or shooter; just to be sure that you don’t embarrass either yourself or the Honoured Couple.

The Bride and Groom have worked for months trying to make their wedding day a magical celebration for themselves as well as their guests. So don’t add any stress to their Special Day by being the “Guest from Hell”. Remember this is their day, bite your tongue, don’t whisper under your breather and smile – it’s a time to celebrate not criticize.

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About the Author: Rinette Emerson

Prior to Enduring Promises, Rinette worked with clients on strategic communications, online development programs, corporate branding and helping clients “get found” online. After officiating her first wedding, many years ago, Rinette was hooked – and now she is a sought after wedding Officiant. A little-known fact about Rinette…she is an amazing artist! You can follow her on LinkedIn.


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Mary and Allan

Hi Mike

We were thrilled to have you as our wedding Officiant. You were great – warm, friendly and easy going.

You made our day truly memorable, and with the suggestion of the wine box, made a unique impact on it as well.

The Enduring Promises’ online Console made the creation of our ceremony so easy.

Thank you Mike for adding so much to our Special Day!

Mary and Allan

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Krista and David

Hi Sam

I just want to say thank you, from both David and myself. Our ceremony on Saturday was the only part of our wedding day that I felt I was truly living in-the-moment. You did such an amazing job, as we knew you would.

It meant a lot to us that you were a familiar face. After you did such a lovely job on Deb and Ian’s wedding last September you were an obvious choice. 

Thanks again for being such an important part of our day!


Krista and David

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