Authored by: Rinette Emerson
May 31, 2012

Congratulations, your little girl is get­ting mar­ried!  Being the mother of the bride (MOB) is not an easy role as your daughter and your future son-in-law probably have their own vision of their wedding ceremony and it may differ dramatically from yours.

Here are some tips which may help avoid many “animated” discussions with the happy couple and will ensure that your daughter’s Special Day is truly amazing…for both of you.

  • First and foremost, be a warm listener, confidant, cheerleader and a source of support for your daughter. You want to help the couple with the plan­ning but at the same time you want them to enjoy the entire process. So unless asked be careful that you don’t take over. Just offer assistance, if asked.
  • Ask your daughter what you can do to help. Discuss the wedding budget and what you are willing to pay for; help manage the guest list, plan a shower, make phone calls; manage the invi­ta­tions and RSVPs, etc.  Just be available to help with any tasks that are wor­ry­ing the couple, should they ask for your help
  • Embark on an adventure to help your daughter find the wedding dress that will trans­form her into a stun­ning bride and delight at how beau­ti­ful your daugh­ter is. This will require the patience of Job and the determination of Steven Jobs. Be honest, yet supportive. Also let the bride help choose the style and the look she wants for you. 
  • Help your daughter and her groom select a venue and suppliers based on their wedding style, budget and vision. Your experience will definitely come in handy. Today it’s all about choos­ing the right venue that matches the couple’s expec­ta­tions, select­ing the right sup­pli­ers to cre­ate their dream wed­ding and of course sharing thoughts about the theme they have chosen. Help with deci­sions on which sup­plier to book but try des­per­ately not to inter­fere. After all, this isn’t your day

Your daughter is asking for your opinion and possibly for some advice on helping her plan her wedding day. But remember, she is about to become someone’s wife, she is no longer your little girl, so walk carefully and speak softly when offering your suggestions.

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About the Author: Rinette Emerson

Prior to Enduring Promises, Rinette worked with clients on strategic communications, online development programs, corporate branding and helping clients “get found” online. After officiating her first wedding, many years ago, Rinette was hooked – and now she is a sought after wedding Officiant. A little-known fact about Rinette…she is an amazing artist! You can follow her on LinkedIn.


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