Authored by: Rinette Emerson
June 15, 2010

As your special day approaches, it is totally normal to feel anxious, nervous and a little overwhelmed. With all of the organizing, sticking to a budget, maintaining good relationships with family, friends, spending time with your fiancé, and prospective in-laws along with a seemingly never-ending wedding to-do list, it is no wonder most brides feel a “little stressed out”.

While the details of your wedding day need to be addressed, it is important to focus on why you are getting married rather than on how the day will unfold. Yes, planning your wedding can be one of the most stressful things you will ever be involved with, but it doesn’t have to be if you remember the following:

Don’t lose sight of what really matters

Don’t get caught up shouldering the responsibility for every detail of your day. We are not suggesting that you leave things to chance. We do however, suggest that you share the responsibility with your fiancé, family and friends so that you can concentrate on the most important component of your wedding – which is you being calm and relaxed. After all, you have family members and friends who are more than willing to help whenever possible – so let them

When planning any event, especially one as personal and intimate as your wedding, there are bound to be some things that don’t follow the original “game plan”. You have made all the necessary arrangements and contingency plans just in case, so accept the fact that there is nothing you can do about the weather or about your cousin who arrives just as you are about to walk down the aisle. Just smile, and roll with the punches!

Take time for yourself and your fiancé

The best recommendation is to spend less time on the small details of your wedding plans and more time caring for yourself and your fiancé. Proper diet, sufficient sleep and regular exercise are all important ways to relax and unwind.

Remember why you are going through this process in the first place. It’s not to organize a dinner party but to marry the person you plan to spend the rest of your days with. Take the time to discuss the details of your wedding but don’t forget to talk about other things as well. Communicate with each other about how you feel and share any dreams as well as your wedding day concerns with each other.

Enjoy the Process; Embrace the Day

Try not to take everything too seriously. Laughing is a great way to relieve tension and reduce the stress you may experience prior to your wedding day.

At the end of the day, the most important aspect of all your planning is that you will be marrying the man you love. If you remain focus on that, you and your fiancé will enjoy a unique and intimate wedding day filled with treasured memories that will stay with you forever.

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About the Author: Rinette Emerson

Prior to Enduring Promises, Rinette worked with clients on strategic communications, online development programs, corporate branding and helping clients “get found” online. After officiating her first wedding, many years ago, Rinette was hooked – and now she is a sought after wedding Officiant. A little-known fact about Rinette…she is an amazing artist! You can follow her on LinkedIn.


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