Authored by: Jim Emerson
September 10, 2018
If you search the internet looking for wedding ceremony etiquette, you would find many posts directed towards how guests should or shouldn’t behave. However, little is written about how the bride and groom should conduct themselves at such a significant gathering. As a wedding will be one of the most significant days in a couple’s life, their behavior needs to reflect this. So, here are a few specific behaviours that the honoured couple should avoid at all costs:
- Don’t get stuck doing wedding duties that your wedding party can handle. Spend time celebrating with your guests and your new spouse.
- Don’t change your mind about who will be in your wedding party after you’ve asked, and your invitation has been accepted. If you do, you’ll probably lose a friendship.
- Don’t ask your attendants to run errands that should be performed by hired help. If you need a baby-sitter during the reception or someone to shuffle cars, hire someone…but not one of your bridesmaids or groomsmen.
- Along a similar line, never ask a guest to donate an item or volunteer a service that would normally be paid for. More than likely they will say yes, but is it a willing yes or do they feel compelled? Your cousins as the musicians, his aunt the baker or your uncle the photographer are often the targets of this abuse.
- Don’t spend too much time with any one guest or group to the exclusion of others. Spend time, with your new partner by your side, visiting with each of your guests. Once you have chatted with all who joined in your celebration, revisit your nearest and dearest. If possible, try to visit with each guest at least twice during the evening so that everyone feels welcomed and included.
- Don’t question an invited guest’s reason for declining your wedding ceremony invitation. You don’t know what might be going on in their lives when your invitation lands in their Inbox.
- The quickest way to make your guests feel forgotten or unappreciated is to start your ceremony 30 minutes late or leave a big gap between the end of your ceremony and the beginning of cocktail hour.
- Whether it’s from the bride or groom, no one wants to hear a long and boring toasts. Keep them short and sweet. Speeches can be meaningful without rambling on. Your guests want to get dancing!
A final thought: Regardless of the flowers, music or food, the result is the same — you just married the person you love, and nothing else matters!
About the Author: Jim Emerson
Jim has helped over 1,100 couples reduce the stress of creating their personal and unique wedding ceremony. He is a husband, father, friend, author, triathlete, handyman, teacher and passionate about his family and work. Jim can help you imagine, create and celebrate your dream wedding ceremony. Contact him today, he’d love to hear from you.