Authored by: Rinette Emerson
December 14, 2011

The anticipation of your upcoming wedding signals the beginning of an exciting new adventure and chapter in your life’s story. Sometimes emotions can become overwhelming during the planning process, especially when deciding how to honour a family member or friend who has recently passed away. This can be a painful time for the bride or groom, but it can also be a wonderful way to honour them while celebrating your new beginning and future.

There are several ways to honor your loved one on your wedding day. Here are a few thoughts which can be incorporated into your ceremony, that will not only honour your loved one but also help the healing process and bring you and your guests closer together.

  • Include a prayer or moment of silence.
  • Ask a mutual friend or family member to share a special reading.
  • Keep a remembrance candle burning during the ceremony, with an explanation to guests of its significance written in your program.
  • Have your musicians play or sing a special song during the ceremony.
  • Use your wedding bouquet to remember by including one white rose for each person you wish to honour.
  • Consider making a donation to a specific charity s/he would have supported in place of giving out wedding favors. Place a card at each table explaining your choice.
  • Include photos of your loved ones in your wedding slide show.

List the names of your deceased loved ones in the wedding program under a heading that states, “In Loving Memory.”  Include a few words about each person’s relationship to the bride or groom, since not all guests will know who these people were.

Discuss your desire to honour your love one with other family members and friends. In the end, you and your fiancée will decide what is appropriate and fitting and no matter how you choose to honor them, your loved one will be with you in spirit on your Special Day.

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About the Author: Rinette Emerson

Prior to Enduring Promises, Rinette worked with clients on strategic communications, online development programs, corporate branding and helping clients “get found” online. After officiating her first wedding, many years ago, Rinette was hooked – and now she is a sought after wedding Officiant. A little-known fact about Rinette…she is an amazing artist! You can follow her on LinkedIn.


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