Authored by: Jim Emerson
June 19, 2012

Your vows and rings have been exchanged. You have been declared legally married and just when you think the pressure is off, it’s time for your wedding speech. The time has arrived to stand up in front of your closest friends and deliver the best speech of your lives in a coherent and natural manner. Ya, right!

The Bride and Grooms’ speech is a very necessary and much anticipated part of the day’s celebration. After all, there are certain things that need to be said in order to make the day even more memorable for the guests. So for those struggling with your speech here’s a few Do’s and Don’ts that will help ease your anxiety:

Write it out. Your bullet-point notes will help to keep it simple and sincere. The speeches that are humble, concise and heart-felt are always the most memorable. You can even begin by saying how nervous you are of making the speech. Your guests will understand and will appreciate your honesty.

Keep it short.  Any longer than three to five minutes and your guests will get bored, any shorter and it’ll look like you haven’t made an effort.

Be yourself.  Don’t use big words if you don’t normally use them. Don’t try to be funny if you are not normally comfortable being the centre of attention. The balance between sincerity and humour is a difficult one for most people, so just speak loudly, clearly, don’t rush and remember practice makes perfect!

Thank everyone. It’s particularly important to thank parents, your new in-laws and your new family. Not just for all their help with the wedding, but for raising and nurturing you, for all their love and support over the years and for accepting each of you into their family.

Talk about each other in a way that balances warmth with a little bit of humour. Talk about how you feel about each other, how you felt when you first saw them on the wedding day and what you’re most looking forward to about being married. Most of all, say it from your heart.  

A short, well-written, practised wedding speech can be a very memorable part of the wedding celebration, and will help you to avoid stepping on anyone’s toes – especially your own!

Do you have any wedding speech stories – good or bad – that would add to the festivities and possible save the Bride and Groom from embarrassing themselves or alienating some friends?

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