Authored by: Rinette Emerson
June 24, 2016

If you are going to be a “good wedding guest” at your best friend’s celebration, consider some of the following:

Read the Invitation
Don’t assume you can bring a date or your children. Unless it says “and guest or and family” on the invitation, only you are invited. And no, don’t call the bride and ask if you can bring a date or your kids. If it was in their plans, the bride and groom would’ve extended that invitation.

Your invitation should be pretty clear as to where you need to be and by what time you’re expected there. Unfortunately, most weddings tend to run a bit late. But that doesn’t mean you should. Making an entrance after the bride is walking down the aisle is not acceptable. Plan to be at the venue at least 15 minutes before the start time of the ceremony. Should unforeseen traffic delay your arrival, wait until the bride has arrived at the front and the other guests have been asked to take their seats, then slide into a seat in the back row – hopefully unnoticed.

Pay attention to the RSVP deadline on your invitation. Out of respect to your friends, make their planning easier by responding as soon as possible.

The Dress Code
We realize that weddings come in all sizes and shapes and what worked at last year’s backyard wedding may not be appropriate for your sister’s black-tie ceremony. So check your invitation. It will save you from that awkward feeling of being uncomfortably under or over-dressed.

This one should go without saying, but just in case, ladies don’t wear white…and stay away from the light ivories as well.

The Gift
Couples spend considerable time choosing items for their wedding registry…because they actually plan on using them.  So do everyone a favor by purchasing from their registry and shipping it directly to their home. After all last thing the bride and groom, or their families, need to worry about at the end of a long day is how to fit all the gifts into the car. But if you are compelled to bring a wrapped gift to the wedding, find the gift table before heading to your seat.

Unplug and Enjoy
The couple has hired a photographer and possibly videographer to capture the memories of the day, so don’t jump into the aisle as the bride is being escorted to the front. Let the professionals do their work without interference and stay out of the photographer’s way. Turn your phone off, put it away and enjoy the ceremony.

Contribute and Celebrate
Many couples have a fear that their guests will not have a good time at the reception. So give them some peace of mind by getting out on the dance floor (even if you don’t like “YMCA”), mingle with the other guests, leave a message at the photo booth, sign the guest book and make sure to tell the bride how beautiful she looks. Because when all is said and done, they will remember how you made them feel on their special day.

So enjoy the opportunity to celebrate with your friends on their special day, but one last thing – don’t get wasted. Don’t be “that guy”!

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About the Author: Rinette Emerson

Prior to Enduring Promises, Rinette worked with clients on strategic communications, online development programs, corporate branding and helping clients “get found” online. After officiating her first wedding, many years ago, Rinette was hooked – and now she is a sought after wedding Officiant. A little-known fact about Rinette…she is an amazing artist! You can follow her on LinkedIn.


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