Team Us!

Authored by: Rinette Emerson
February 25, 2015

With 2015 just under way and Chinese New Year barely behind us, many couples are focussing on goals for the coming year. Unfortunately some are already dealing with disappointment and struggles. Financial matters, failing health, and/or family issues all contribute to relational conflicts. Some of these challenges are beyond our control. We can however, adopt a new mindset to see these issues, not as insurmountable challenges but, as opportunities for growth in our relationships.

When your relationship seems to be under attack, reset how you and your “significant other” face them.  

Sit down together for a positive conversation, reflecting and speaking openly about the struggles faced, the changes that are occurring and how you might address the struggles – individually and together as a couple.

Consider times when the problems of the day divide rather than unite you as a couple. Don’t relive past decisions, but focus on how you can do better next time. Resolve that in the coming year, you’ll try to face difficulties with an “us vs the problem” attitude, instead of a “me vs you” mentality.

Decide together to approach the coming year with a sense of lightheartedness. Develop and practice the ability to laugh together at the uncontrollable things of life. Even this takes practice, as some of us are naturally wired to be more serious. Make a point to laugh more – it does work.

Mentally tear up the list of the ways your partner has failed, disappointed, or hurt you in the past. Decide that this year, you won’t keep a “record of wrongs.” Write a letter listing all those big and small things that you may be carrying inside seal them up – then burn the letter (in a safe manner of course). Now do your best to overlook offenses, deal with the issue and then, as the song says, “Let it go!”

Share your individual and family expectations and desires for the coming year. Honestly discuss practical everyday issues – and don’t forget to write them down. For example, maybe this is the year to implement a plan to get out of debt or enjoy the time away that you have spoken about for ages.  Are you and your partner on the same page when it comes to your hopes and dreams for the next twelve months?

Decide this year that no matter what challenges you may face, that you’re in them together. In your marriage, declare this the year of “Team Us!”

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About the Author: Rinette Emerson

Prior to Enduring Promises, Rinette worked with clients on strategic communications, online development programs, corporate branding and helping clients “get found” online. After officiating her first wedding, many years ago, Rinette was hooked – and now she is a sought after wedding Officiant. A little-known fact about Rinette…she is an amazing artist! You can follow her on LinkedIn.


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Let’s make a week of it!

Authored by: Enduring Promises
February 11, 2015

Valentine’s Day is so much more than a date on the calendar. It’s a time to express your unconditional love for one another and celebrate the life you share. But why should your choice to love one another be limited to one day, one week or even one month?

For couples about to be married, Valentine’s Day can set the tone for your relationship and mark the beginning of a lifelong adventure.

Here are some ways that will help you celebrate Valentine’s week;

  • Shower your partner with small gifts throughout the week prior to Valentine’s. It can be a small chocolate on the pillow every night for a week or a promise to put gas in her car during the winter months. Remember the best gifts are always the ones that make your partner feel special and appreciated.  
  • Send a card, or love letter. The act of expressing your love for one another on paper can heighten the romance. On days leading up to the 14th, place a card or letter somewhere you know your love will find it. If you are in a long-distance relationship or don’t live together, mail your partner a card or letter each day for seven days.
  • Make a commitment to do one thing together each day before Valentine’s. It doesn’t have to be romantic or expensive. Just being together, without the interruption of technology, is sometimes the best gift you can give one another.

Take the time to create a special moment, something that will be remembered for a lifetime. So during your Valentine week celebrations make your time together even more memorable by enjoy this “special time” with that “special someone” with those “special gifts”.

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Hayley and Blake

We used Enduring Promises and Jim Giles for our wedding this past February and it was the best choice we could have made.

From our first meeting with Jim we were completely confident that our ceremony would be what we wanted. He was full of knowledge and suggestions and was completely open to working with us to personalize the ceremony just to us. Jim was professional and helpful yet warm and lighthearted. He left us feeling very much at ease. He stuck to the ceremony we created, adding light and comforting comments to take some of the heat off. We were nervous and needed it!

We have received nothing but compliments from friends and family about Jim. He really is wonderful and makes you feel very special on your special day. The Console was amazing and I can’t imagine doing it any other way. Enduring Promises will hold your hand through the whole process or let you do your own thing.

I can’t say enough about this service. I will continue to spread the word to any couple looking for a great wedding officiant! You can’t go wrong with Jim Giles and Enduring Promises!

Hayley and Blake