You Didn’t Really Say That, Did You?

Authored by: Rinette Emerson
December 31, 2013

We are constantly asked if Enduring Promises require couples to attend premarital classes before we officiate their wedding. Our response is always the same; no, but we believe that some premarital classes are a wonderful investment in your marriage. With all the differences couples face in terms of personality, background, beliefs, dreams, etc., it’s a wonder that healthy relationships exist at all!

Most couples wrongly blame in-laws, finances, the kids or sex as the source of the challenges they face in their marriage. Actually, the number one reason for a breakdown in a relationship is the result of poor communications. How do you communicate with your spouse, and how does your partner communicate their love to you? After all, how you communicate with one another becomes an integral part of your relationship.

While men and women communicate differently, they also listen differently. When men hear about issues, their first reaction is to try to fix the problem. Their spouse however, may just need to vent when she’s talking with her spouse; she simply wants him to listen. He offers ideas and solutions to the “assumed” problem, while she wants to just share. They both want to share, just in different ways.

After the cake is cut and the honeymoon is over, most couples just assume that they’re headed for marital tranquility. Hopefully, that will be the case for all couples, but we know that’s not reality. Happiness can be found in marriage in a variety of ways. Learning and developing communication skills can aide in recognizing and addressing challenges before they become overwhelming. And a good premarital course can do that for you and your partner.

As always, follow along at our blog.  We post lots of content that will help you create your perfect, hopefully stress-free, wedding day.

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About the Author: Rinette Emerson

Prior to Enduring Promises, Rinette worked with clients on strategic communications, online development programs, corporate branding and helping clients “get found” online. After officiating her first wedding, many years ago, Rinette was hooked – and now she is a sought after wedding Officiant. A little-known fact about Rinette…she is an amazing artist! You can follow her on LinkedIn.

 

Author Website: https://www.enduringpromises.com

Lady Gaga or Carrie Underwood?

Authored by: Rinette Emerson
December 13, 2013

Music is one of the most important components of your wedding, and your selections are one of the best ways to personalize your ceremony. So if Lady Gaga is more reflective of your personalities than Carrie Underwood, then go ahead and choose “Edge of Glory” as the processional song. Such personal touches will help to make your ceremony more memorable for your guests, and of course, for you.

Some things to consider when selecting your music:

  • Think of the theme of your ceremony. The music you choose for your ceremony can set the mood (and atmosphere) for the entire day. Decide how you want the whole day to feel, for you and your guests. Do you want an elegant sophisticated ambiance with classical music, or perhaps a more laid back relaxed vibe with blues or jazz, or maybe you prefer a upbeat party atmosphere with some soul and pop classics.
  • Consider the location of your wedding. Although most churches don’t dictate that all music must be religious, some houses of worship don’t allow secular music and have strict guidelines about what can be played during the ceremony. So to be safe, check with the Officiant prior to your Special Day.
  • Check with the venue co-ordinator to find out if you must work with the in-house music company or use a particular musician, singer or DJ. This may restrict the type of music you choose and any family or friend involvement you may be considering.
  • It’s a good idea to think about the timing of your ceremony and when you want music to be played. Classical songs work well for the processional as they have natural breaks that fit in with pauses in the ceremony. Contemporary music can also work for the Bride’s entrance so choose the music that best compliments the style of your ceremony. Later on for the signing of the marriage license, a piece of around 3-5 minutes is usually sufficient. Also bear in mind that when guests arrive, the music will help to set the atmosphere so plan about 25 minutes of music for this time. Click here for a checklist of when music is traditionally included in a wedding ceremony.
  • Keep your religious and cultural backgrounds in mind when selecting your music. Including music in your ceremony that celebrates your heritage is an effective way to personalize your ceremony and honour your families and guests. They would appreciate the extra thought and effort involved.

Whatever your musical tastes, be creative and allow your personalities to shine through!

As always, follow along at our blog.  We post lots of content that will help you create your perfect, hopefully stress-free, wedding day.

Go, check out our Tips and Suggestions and we’ll catch up with you next time!

 

About the Author: Rinette Emerson

Prior to Enduring Promises, Rinette worked with clients on strategic communications, online development programs, corporate branding and helping clients “get found” online. After officiating her first wedding, many years ago, Rinette was hooked – and now she is a sought after wedding Officiant. A little-known fact about Rinette…she is an amazing artist! You can follow her on LinkedIn.

 

Author Website: https://www.enduringpromises.com