Don’t Pretend You’re Tina Fey.

Authored by: Rinette Emerson
August 28, 2013

You’ve been there, I know you have. You winced when the groom moved to the mic for his wedding speech and promptly proceeded to make everyone in the room uncomfortable.

The groom’s speech is a great opportunity to thank your guests for participating in your wedding celebration, and to acknowledge those who made a contribution to your Special Day. To insure that your speech doesn’t embarrass anyone – especially your spouse – here are a few tips to remember;

Start of by saying how beautiful your bride looks! Don`t forget that she is the most beautiful woman in your life and you want her to know that. Thank your bride for her encouragement, support and definitely patience, her love and for the positive impact she has had on your life.  But don`t stop there.

Compliment the bridesmaids and thank them specifically for their support during the preparation leading up to your big day. Don`t forget your groomsmen, but there is no need to mention your stag in Las Vegas. Have your mum and mum-in-law stand up, introduce them and say how wonderful they are and how good they look…and don`t forget the dads. You know what, thank them all. Seriously, thank everyone! 

Keep it PG-13. Be careful what stories you tell. You don`t want to embarrass your grandparents, your parents, your wife`s parents or watch for it…your wife! Make sure that there`s nothing in your speech that you wouldn`t tell your grandmother or younger sibling. Tell the story about how you met, when you first knew you were in love and stop there. It`s safer. The groom should never make jokes at the bride’s expense or include jokes that won’t be appreciated by some of the guests.

End by saying how beautiful your bride looks! Now comes the most important part of a groom’s speech – the part where he talks about his feelings for his new wife. Tell her how happy she has made him, how he can’t believe his good fortune, and how he is looking forward to their future together. Did I mention that this is a good time to tell your bride how beautiful she looks? So lift your glass and offer a toast to your bride. 

Now that the speech is written, practice it to make sure that it doesn`t exceed 15 minutes. Most importantly. limit your alcohol before your speech. I didn`t say don`t drink, but not so much that you tell your father-in-law what you really think about his comb-over.

A groom doesn’t need to be a stand-up comedian to write and deliver a heartfelt thank you speech that is balanced with appreciation and humour. Just don’t go on, and on, and on, and…

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About the Author: Rinette Emerson

Prior to Enduring Promises, Rinette worked with clients on strategic communications, online development programs, corporate branding and helping clients “get found” online. After officiating her first wedding, many years ago, Rinette was hooked – and now she is a sought after wedding Officiant. A little-known fact about Rinette…she is an amazing artist! You can follow her on LinkedIn.


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