Practice Makes Perfect!

Authored by: Rinette Emerson
June 28, 2012

All your wedding arrangements have fallen into place and you’re feeling pretty good about things.  Now it’s time to put the finishing touches on the ceremony itself and you realize that you need help with the “flow” of your ceremony – you realize that you need a wedding rehearsal.

Some things to consider when planning your rehearsal:

Limit the “background noise”. When it comes to a wedding rehearsal, things can get messy. Either too many people want to offer their opinion, or some don’t pay attention to their role, or some simply forget and don’t show up at all. To simplify and increase the effectiveness of your rehearsal, the only people that should be involved are those who will “be touching” your ceremony.  If too many people get involved, as is often the case, your rehearsal will create more stress than it will resolve.

Book the rehearsal. At the time that you book your venue, reserve your rehearsal date and time. If you are having a Saturday wedding, try to reserve Thursday night for your rehearsal as you want to leave Friday evening free to just “chill”. 

Plan for the little onesKids are great and can add so much to the wedding ceremony, but remember, these little ones don’t realize that it is not “their day” and can get cranky and tired pretty quickly. It’s important to walk them through what they need to do, but make sure mom or dad are close by to handle any temper tantrums.

Keep a balance between fun and work.  Remember that this is the practice run for your big day so you want to keep your rehearsal fun. That said, you also need to cover the logistics so that your wedding party feels comfortable and confident of their role on the wedding day.

Involve your Wedding Officiant in your rehearsal. It makes little sense to establish a game plan for your wedding day and not include the coach. So if you decide to have a rehearsal, make sure to check that your Wedding Officiant is available. Their experience will bring structure and ideas to the rehearsal and will relieve some of the pre-wedding stress and concerns.  

Remember, the smoother the rehearsal goes, the easier and more relaxed you and your wedding party will be on the wedding day.

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About the Author: Rinette Emerson

Prior to Enduring Promises, Rinette worked with clients on strategic communications, online development programs, corporate branding and helping clients “get found” online. After officiating her first wedding, many years ago, Rinette was hooked – and now she is a sought after wedding Officiant. A little-known fact about Rinette…she is an amazing artist! You can follow her on LinkedIn.


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Good Evening Ladies and Gentlemen!

Authored by: Jim Emerson
June 19, 2012

Your vows and rings have been exchanged. You have been declared legally married and just when you think the pressure is off, it’s time for your wedding speech. The time has arrived to stand up in front of your closest friends and deliver the best speech of your lives in a coherent and natural manner. Ya, right!

The Bride and Grooms’ speech is a very necessary and much anticipated part of the day’s celebration. After all, there are certain things that need to be said in order to make the day even more memorable for the guests. So for those struggling with your speech here’s a few Do’s and Don’ts that will help ease your anxiety:

Write it out. Your bullet-point notes will help to keep it simple and sincere. The speeches that are humble, concise and heart-felt are always the most memorable. You can even begin by saying how nervous you are of making the speech. Your guests will understand and will appreciate your honesty.

Keep it short.  Any longer than three to five minutes and your guests will get bored, any shorter and it’ll look like you haven’t made an effort.

Be yourself.  Don’t use big words if you don’t normally use them. Don’t try to be funny if you are not normally comfortable being the centre of attention. The balance between sincerity and humour is a difficult one for most people, so just speak loudly, clearly, don’t rush and remember practice makes perfect!

Thank everyone. It’s particularly important to thank parents, your new in-laws and your new family. Not just for all their help with the wedding, but for raising and nurturing you, for all their love and support over the years and for accepting each of you into their family.

Talk about each other in a way that balances warmth with a little bit of humour. Talk about how you feel about each other, how you felt when you first saw them on the wedding day and what you’re most looking forward to about being married. Most of all, say it from your heart.  

A short, well-written, practised wedding speech can be a very memorable part of the wedding celebration, and will help you to avoid stepping on anyone’s toes – especially your own!

Do you have any wedding speech stories – good or bad – that would add to the festivities and possible save the Bride and Groom from embarrassing themselves or alienating some friends?

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About the Author: Jim Emerson

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